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...Coaches (Parents/Guardians) stay united! 

"And Jesus knew their thoughts, and said unto them, "Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation; and every city or house divided against itself shall not stand."" Matthew 12:25


Whew! This can be tough at times!  Believe me I know!  Your team players (the children) have their way of trying to get whatever they want.  They can be very clever too!  😏 

If one coach (parent/guardian) says no, they ask the other one.  If the coaches are not united, CHAOS will break out all over the house.  Before you realize it, that one situation negatively impacted the entire team.  It's so crazy how small disagreements can spin out of control and tear down a family.

One day, our daughter wanted to go somewhere.  I said, "Yes", but the Head Coach (her dad) said, "No".  She was crushed, turning to me saying, "You can let me go.  You can decide for yourself.  Daddy doesn't have to make all the decisions. You can let me do it."  

As much as I wanted to show off my power as an Assistant Head Coach, I couldn't. 😞 First, I remembered the verse above then I remembered that I also needed to respect the position of the Head Coach (husband/father) in our family.  

So......I humbled myself and told her, "No".  I told her that her dad and I are the parent team (the Head Coaches in the house) and we both have to agree. She continued to whine around the house while I continued to silently pray for strength to keep my mouth shut and try not nag to my husband, but maintain peace in the house....oh la...la... 

Thankfully, I did an exercise routine to the song, "Jesus Jesus". The lyrics were rolling out my mouth!  I was singing the song under my breath and calling on the name, Jesus Jesus. Oh la la....I had to calm myself from wanting to demand my rights as THE DECISION MAKER and strive to keep peace in the house.    

Later in the evening, we had a Bible study session.  I don't recall the exact lesson, but I know my daughter got so convicted about her behaviour.  She confessed that she shouldn't have been doing what she was doing. Instantly, she stopped bringing it up and she stopped asking to go. Yay!!! 

God is so good!  I just love how the Biblical principles helps us to stay united as parents (coaches) and the family thriving as a team!  

Trust me, it's NOT always easy (sometimes it takes a bit longer to get the peace we seek), but truly believing that God works all things together for the good (Romans 8:28) gives us the strength to swallow our pride, apply wisdom, and do what Jesus would do.  The outcome is always so amazingggg!!!  To God be the glory!

Oh, a few days a later, she asked for something else.  I told her that I'd check with her dad and we'd discuss it.  She said, "I know he'll say, No". I had to immediately address the issue.  I don't want her to have the perception that her dad is the "No" person and I'm the "Yes" one.  We are a team. As the coaches (parents) we have to stay united and beware of how we speak about each other to our children. Staying united when we're in each other's presence and when we're not.  So,  I told her that her dad wants her to have things.  We just need to discuss it. She walked away as if she understood....I hope she did.

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